One of my favorite skits from Saturday Night Live was Stuart Smalley’s Daily Affirmations. In every episode he would look into the mirror and say his famous phrase, “I’m good enough, I’m smart enough and doggone it…people like me.” The idea is that some people have so little self-esteem that they need to go to these absurd measures to affirm themselves. We all get a good laugh at the silliness of it all.
But what if it actually works?
My top love language is definitely “words of affirmation”. When I have people speaking encouragement into my life, my love tank is full! But I’ve gone through times in my life that I have not received it regularly. As silly as this may sound, I’ve found that speaking scripture out loud over myself is more effective than I could have ever imagined.
I grab some of my favorite scriptures and read them out loud. I don’t read them as something written in the past to someone else, I make it personal. I read those promises over myself and before you know it, I’m feeling as confident as Stuart Smalley!
Here are some of my favorites:
“I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well.” Psalm 139:14
“The LORD my God is with me, he is mighty to save. He will take great delight in me, he will quiet me with his love, he will rejoice over me with singing” Zephaniah 3:17
“For I did not receive the spirit of slavery to fall back into fear, but I have received the Spirit of adoption as sons, by whom I cry, “Abba! Father!” Romans 8:15
“So I am no longer a slave, but a son; and since I am a son, God has made me also an heir.” Galatians 4:7
When I’m down or discouraged, I read these scriptures over myself. It might be weird at first but once you get over yourself, it’s liberating!
Have you ever found it hard to be around someone who is constantly self-deprecating? It’s almost awkward. They can be hard to like. I know I’ve been there on both sides. I’ve found myself so hungry for attention and affirmation that I put myself down hoping someone would build me up. When that doesn’t happen, I just feel exponentially worse.
“Like a small rudder steers and directs a massive vessel, so our thoughts & conversation about ourselves dictate our destiny on the ocean of life” Francois Du Toit
What we think and say about ourselves is so much more powerful than we even realize. Proverbs 18:21 says “The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit.” Many times we quote that verse in regards to what we say to others but it is just as applicable to what we say about ourselves.
I believe Stuart Smalley had it right. We should all find our own scripture for daily affirmation. Read it in the mirror if it helps. Speak it over yourself and see how it changes your day. If it works for Michael Jordan, it will work for you!
Do you remember this skit? Have you ever given yourself affirmation in the mirror?