Archive - September, 2011

It’s Okay To Be Weird

There are times in life when you just don’t feel like you fit. When you finally find someone that gets you, it’s like a breath of fresh air. Michael Perkins is that breath of fresh air that can relate to you no matter what you look like, where you’re from or what you’ve been through. He has a huge heart and he pours it out liberally. So drink it in, it always goes down smooth.

Platypus

What’s the weirdest animal?

The duck-billed platypus.

It’s a duck-billed, beaver-tailed, otter-footed, venomous, egg laying mammal.

That’s just crazy.

It’s like nothing else on earth.

And I’m certain that it couldn’t care less about what we think.   It’s completely okay with being different, weird, and unique.

The platypus doesn’t struggle with identity issues because it knows that it is fearfully and wonderfully made.

Which should make us realize that…

it’s okay to be different.

it’s okay to be weird.

it’s okay to be unique.

it’s okay not to settle for status-quo.

We don’t need you to be a lesser version of someone else.  We need you to be you.  And we need you to be the best you that you can possibly be.

This is permission to be yourself.

Do you struggle with identity?

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Michael PerkinsMichael is a regular guy that looks to show how God moves in our everyday, ordinary lives. He is a husband, pastor, blogger, and a creative. He blogs at Untitled and you can connect with him on Twitter.

Because She’s Worth It

The women in my life have made me the man I am today. They inspire me, they encourage me and they teach me how to love. I am a man because I know the value of a woman.

This is my tribute to the women in my life:

Alyana

My little sister is a jewel. She is that deadly combination of gorgeous and funny. She’s one of those women who is a knock out and has no idea. She’s silly and down to earth. I get her. I laugh at her jokes when everyone else is rolling their eyes. We’re a lot alike and I love it.

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A Pastor Without a Place

Have you ever tried to introduce someone really, really great to your friends? It seems like words can’t really do you justice. You try to give a quick bio or tell them something funny or frame the introduction impressively. Anything so they are ready to receive this new blessing of acquaintance with the proper reverence. That’s how I feel right now…and words fail me. Most of you know him but that doesn’t matter. Matt is one of my favorite writers. He is funny and he loves Jesus (openly). You don’t get that often. Today he’s sharing a really powerful story that resonates with the core of what I stand for. You might not get laughs with this one, but you’ll see why he’s one of the greats. Talk to ‘em brother!

Pastor Without A Place

Normally this post would contain humor. It would probably have a list of some sort about this or that before turning serious and highlighting a spiritual concept. That’s usually how I roll (or whatever the kids are saying these days). This isn’t one of my normal posts because the topic is something that recently impacted me and my family in a huge way.

Eight weeks ago I became a pastor without a place.

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Humility Is…

Humility is not self-deprecation

Humility is not deflecting compliments

Humility is not about me

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Humility is esteeming others

Humility is confidence in something greater

Humility is about everyone else

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What would you add to the list? 
How can we cultivate humility in our lives?

Coloring Inside The Lines

Love

Controlled By Love

There are very few people who will admit that they don’t need rules in their life. Sure, there are a lot of people who don’t like rules. But ultimately, people value rules over anarchy. But what if there was something better than rules?

Boundaries are a way of providing the benefits of rules without the same restrictions. It may sound like semantics but if you can distinguish between rules and boundaries, it makes all the difference.

A rule is a principle or regulation governing conduct. A boundary is something that indicates limits. A rule enforces external control. A boundary develops internal control. Boundaries always have reasons. Rules do not always require reasons. There are many more, so let’s dig in.

Next topic: boundaries

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Life Without Rules

Life Without Rules

"The sum total is love"

I’ve never been rebellious in my life. I’ve never been the one to question the status quo. I like rules. Obedience always came naturally to me. But as I mature in my faith, I’m seeing that God isn’t interested in us blindly following rules. So I started asking some dangerous questions:

What if we could live life without rules?

What if taking away rules made us better people?

What would it be like to remove punishment from all offenses?

These aren’t the easiest questions to answer but I’m going to share my thoughts on this subject in the next two posts. I hope you read with me and join the conversation. Let’s sharpen each other!

First topic: rules

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He Is Already Pleased

What if you didn’t have to work hard for recognition?
What if you never had to prove yourself?
What if you were accepted before you ever lifted up a single finger?

These are all completely counter-cultural questions. Voices from every angle tell you that your value only comes from what you can give to people. People will only like you if you do something for them.

Well one small passage in the first chapter of Mark flips all that on it’s head. There are two important concepts that I found in this passage that changed my life.

I’m talking about those two things today at Faith Village. It’s a new faith-based community. They asked me to be a contributor to their blog and I was thrilled at the opportunity. You can read more about them here. While you’re over there, read my first contribution to the site.

Here’s a snippet:

We spend a lot of time trying to impress people. We use our intelligence, our influence, our possessions and even our looks. But what happens when we find ourselves trying to impress God?

I remember playing sports growing up. I always wanted to impress my dad on the basketball court or baseball field. I would constantly look into the stands to see if he was watching me. After a fantastic game, I was anxious to hear his approval. After a terrible game, I was ashamed and expected to see a shaking head of disappointment. In my mind, I felt that his acceptance was based on my performance.

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My Father’s Daughter

I feel extremely blessed by the community on this blog. I’ve never had to turn away a guest post that was submitted to me. They haven’t just been acceptable, I’ve loved every single one of them. Today’s post is no exception. My new friend Nikki is sharing what it’s like to be her father’s daughter. It’s powerful. Enjoy!

My Father's Daughter

I am my Father’s daughter. At least, that’s what I once thought. For the first 12 years of my life that was my go-to response anytime someone asked me who I was. My purpose, my self-worth, my entire sense of identity was wrapped up in one man; Daddy. My favorite movie was Rocky, because his favorite movie was Rocky. I thought OJ was guilty because he thought OJ was guilty. The list goes on and on.

Things changed around that 12th year of life when my Dad re-married. Suddenly, my foundation was pulled out from under me, and I was sent spinning. He moved away, and our relationship was never the same. What ensued was a course of self-discovery that led very nearly led to self-destruction.

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The Art of Talking Without Talking

There are fathers, fathers of girls and fathers of 3 girls. I am none of those. My friend Dustin Valencia is the most impressive of those. He wouldn’t leave his girls in my care but since I am a writer, he asked me to come over and baby sit his blog while he’s out gallivanting overseas.

Dustin writes about family and relationships pretty regularly so I figured a story about martial arts made perfect sense.

Go check it out and let me know what you think. And while you’re there, look at the pictures his adorable daughters and read his blog!

Here’s a preview:

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Enter The Dragon is one of my favorite martial arts movies of all time. Most people remember the classic fight scene in the room of mirrors with Han. But I’m more a movie quote fanatic so I always find lines that stick out to me and use them in my every day conversations.

In one scene, Bruce Lee is on a boat with another guy who is being a bully. He gets in Lee’s face and says “What’s your style?” Lee replies, “My style? You can call it the art of fighting without fighting.” He then proceeds to trick the guy into getting in a dinghy and doesn’t get in with him. The guy has to float behind the boat holding on to a rope for the rest of the trip.

Fighting without fighting. I love that line. I love that style. So much so that I incorporate it into my communication style.

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Interview With Gary Molander, Author of Pursuing Christ. Creating Art.

Gary Molander

There is a creative renaissance emerging in the body of Christ. More than ever, I see sons and daughters of God finding their identity and fanning the flame of creativity that God has put inside of them.

We need leaders to steward this move. We need those that can relate to creatives and artists. We need those who can guide this young generation as they pursue Christ through their art.

Gary Molander is one of those leaders. He recently published a book called “Pursuing Christ. Creating Art.” I read it as soon as it came out and I was deeply moved, challenged and inspired.

Today I have the privilege of interviewing him about his book. It is just a glimpse of the wisdom he shares in his book. After the interview, I’ll give you more information on how you can order it. I HIGHLY recommend it.

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