Two of my favorite virtues are love and humility. They are two of the qualities in a person I respect most. But it wasn’t until I heard this phrase from a mentor that my perspective was completely shifted:
Love gives. Humility receives.
I’ve always thought of love as being something that happens to two people. I’ve seen people say that they love without being loved in return. But I was pretty sure that at the end of it all, I felt that the lover was foolish and couldn’t sustain it.
I thought of love as a two-way transaction. If it only goes one way, it is not complete. But then I understood this truth:
The truest, most perfect love is the one that is not reciprocated.
It’s easy to love someone that loves me back. It’s difficult, but possible to love someone who hates me. It’s near impossible to love someone who just doesn’t care.
But love gives without demanding anything in return.
For a long time I viewed humility as self-deprecation. I understood humility as devaluing yourself in the presence of others.
Over time I have realized that there is a confidence in humility. I realized that it is not a matter of valuing something higher than yourself, but it is valuing something before yourself.
Humility is the strength to ask for help. Humility is also the strength to receive help. Humility is the ability to remove the power of pride.
Humility is the proper response to love.
Humility removes the obligation of reciprocating love. It simply receives and is filled by it.
Today I’m sharing a handwritten post for my friend Michael Perkins. It’s called Love gives. Humility receives. Check it out and spend some time reading his other handwritten posts. I love the creativity he uses to write out the thoughts in his heart. It is a truly unique experience that I highly recommend.