Discovering identity and unlocking destiny.
Humility is a curious thing. I’m not sure if you can master it. And if you have, it would be ironic to say so. But one thing I’ve learned is that there is a difference between humility and servanthood. I’ve never had much of an issue serving others. I do well putting others first. But [...]
How do you define holiness? When I think of holiness, I think of reverence. I think consecrated. I think hallowed and sacred and perfect. Honestly, I think unattainable. So when God says that we are to be holy because He is holy, let’s just say it makes me a little uncomfortable. Because the apostle Paul [...]
One of my pastors recently said something so profound that I can’t stop thinking about it. He said: “Marriage is an art, not a science.” – Gui Kerr It seemed simple on the surface but as I thought more about it, I began to see the depth of what he meant. No one has [...]
Have you ever said this phrase? I know I have. On the surface it sounds nice but it’s not as loving as we might think. The more I think about it, the more I believe that Ghandi got this one wrong. I’m sure his heart was in the right place but bumpersticker theology too often [...]
i∙den∙ti∙ty [ahy-den-ti-tee] the state or fact of remaining the same one, as under varying aspects or conditions Who am I? It’s a question that has been asked since the beginning of time. Traditionally, we’ve found the answer in one place…what we do. If I write, then I’m a writer. If I work in an office, [...]
Six years ago my then-wife said t0 me the most devastating words you can say to your spouse: “I don’t love you anymore.” A year later I received papers in the mail and at 28 years old, I was divorced. I was broken beyond anything I had ever experienced. Over the next couple of years I [...]
I was cut off the other day in traffic. I had to hit my brakes to stop from hitting the guy in front of me. He didn’t even notice and as I went around him, I looked over and he was looking down at his cell phone. I was annoyed to say the least but within [...]
We all have daddy issues of some sort. Fathers have a tremendous responsibility and unfortunately, none of them are perfect. We’ve all lacked in one way or another be it in the form of provision, protection or identity. The first step in the healing process is releasing forgiveness. Many of us don’t fully understand forgiveness. I [...]
Are we shaped by nature or nurture? Rather than the somewhat naive either or debate, I believe both play a vital role in shaping who we are. And more than anyone else, fathers are the predominate influence in determining our identity. My parents divorced when I was very young so I didn’t spend much time [...]
Can rejection ever be a good thing? I never thought it could but experience has taught me differently. There is a direct correlation to a lack of protection from our fathers and a fear of rejection. In my last post, I explained how fathers are intended to teach us to take risks. When we don’t feel [...]
